When someone wrongs us it’s natural to get angry. Often this anger and frustration leads to further resentment and negative thoughts about the person. Sometimes such thoughts can spiral to great lengths. When this happens all the flaws of that person are magnified in our eyes and we become blinded from their good, leading us to hate that person with great intensity. We start to see them as completely evil. No one is ever completely evil, even the most evil people in history often had a misconstrued rationale for their actions, that they saw as noble. Although this might seem very natural this is nothing other than the ploy of shaitan. We think these thoughts are our own because of what we have experienced but they’re not they are clear whisperings of the Shaytan that can have severe consequences. It’s precisely this type of thing that leads to a cycle of violence death and destruction that can continues for many years.
The proof of this being shaytan is the statement of Joseph after he reunited with his brothers.
Despite what his brothers did, he still blamed the satan
The other thing to remember regardless of how others are, we are only answerable for ourselves and our own actions so we need to conduct ourselves according to the examples of the Prophets and laws laid out in the Qur’an
O you who have believed, be persistently standing firm in justice, witnesses for Allah , even if it be against yourselves or parents and relatives. Whether one is rich or poor, Allah is more worthy of both. So follow not [personal] inclination, lest you not be just. And if you distort [your testimony] or refuse [to give it], then indeed Allah is ever, with what you do, Acquainted. (Quran 4:135)
I used this formula to achieve peace when I was troubled for many years by a large loss in a business partnership as result of not follow Islamic Guidlines in setting up the business in the first place. Negative feelings consume you and harm oneself more than the other. It’s better to forgive and wait for Allah’s promise of reward. Allah never goes back on His promise (Qur’an). It’s not going to be an easy journey but you’ve got to make it and it’s worth it. It took me over 3 years even though I am an Islamic Teacher, who is trying to constantly trying to lead by example to the people around me, my kids my wife and be a role model for the youth I teach , exposed to the Qur’an everyday. May Allah make it easy for you.
So what is a religitard? A religitard is one whose mental faculty of independent or rational thinking has been numbed by a misunderstanding of religion.
In no particular order of importance here are a few signs of Religitardness I’ve observed.
1. You tell everyone music is haram (especially your kids) but you secretly listen to the worst of it ie Pitbull, Rihanna, Nikki Minaj, Beyonce et al
2. You’re always forwarding images of stop the Haram – like plucking the eyebrows because it makes you look super religious but then you question yourself in private, like what’s wrong with it? It makes no difference to anyone’s life, or….
3. ..You follow an ultra conservative impractical, incompatible and unrealistic interpretation of religion, then you feel suffocated and go the opposite direction after a few months. Sometimes you yo yo like this for a while then give up and go back to your old ways.
4. Haram and Bid’a are like your favourite words you say it like others say salam. Short back and sides, haram, women cutting their hair, haram, photography, haram.
5. You lecture others about how they will be in the hellfire for pride because they have trousers that go below the ankle, yet you can’t afford to pay the rent but you insist on driving a fancy car purchased on interest bearing loans because it makes you look good.
6. You regurgitate stuff like verses of the Qur’an without ever checking the context or giving it any thought.
7. You love throwing quotes of classical scholars around that you simply memorised but probably didn’t understand,”He said this so an so said that”, because it makes you sound super knowledgeable. Occasionally you’ll throw in an arabic word or two that’s like the icing on the cake.
If you fall into the above category, take a dose of education and thinking for yourself every day, up to 5 times a day.
What are the signs of religious retardation that you have observed feel free to include them in the comments below..
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If you want to get anywhere in life whether it be in terms off knowledge, health, finances whatever. You need the one ingredient of constancy. There will be many hardships, difficulties and hurdles you’ll have to overcome along the way, each time you’ve got to just pick yourself and carry on*. Always remembering Allah Loves Your Constant Deed!!
In another verse of the Qur’an Allah says
And say (O Muhammad SAW) “Work! Allah will see your work, and (so will) His Messenger and the believers. And you will be brought back to the All-Knower of the unseen
Al-Tawba Verse No:105
Allah (is) with you and never will deprive you (of) your deeds
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*Halal pursuits only 🙂
Often the names of Allah Rahman and Raheem are translated as Most Gracious Most Merciful. However as with most of Arabic the amazing subtleties are lost in translation. Nouns that fall on this scale ‘wazn’ or words of this pattern indicate intensity or severity. For example Ghaad’ib is ‘one who is angry’ to say one is ‘ghadbaan’ means he is extremely angry, aa’tish is a person that is thirsty to say he is extremely thirsty is ‘at-shaan’ therefore the word Ar’Rahman means one that is ‘Extremely Merciful’ we are not going to go into how and why in this post that is another discussion in itself. That’s six more words you can add to your growing vocabulary of Arabic. Stay posted for a similar look at the linguistic subtlety of Ar –Raheem inshallah. If you haven’t already joined our mailing list you can do that right here
He has prescribed for himself mercy
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Yaqoub’s love for his son is one of the most touching aspects of the Quranic narrative. When he was separated from Yusuf, the tears of grief took his very sight away. After decades of sorrow and longing, his sons found Yusuf in Egypt. Yusuf sent them back with a shirt of his to cure his father’s blindness. Yaqoub detected the scent of his beloved son from miles away as the caravan approached:
وَلَمَّا فَصَلَتِ الْعِيرُ قَالَ أَبُوهُمْ إِنِّي لَأَجِدُ رِيحَ يُوسُفَ
“And as soon as the caravan was on its way, their father said: “Indeed, I find the scent of Yusuf in the air…””
Yaqoub interestingly says: أَجِدُ, I find the scent of Yusuf, but who says that they find the smell of something? You’d expect him to say “I smell the scent,” or “I detect the scent,” but word “find” is used here to represent a deeper emotional meaning.
The opposite of finding something is losing something, just as Yaqoub lost Yusuf. Moreover, to find something you must be searching for it.
The word أَجِدُ suggests that, after all those years, Yaqoub was still searching and longing for his son. He never gave up his hope in Allah, nor the love of his son. So when the caravan finally set out, he found the scent of Yusuf that he had been searching for, as opposed to smelling it. The subtle detail of Quranic word choice reveals such intricate beauty.
Taken from the Bayyinah Blog with permission
Sometimes in the field of dawah, this is not just with non muslims, people start mocking Islam. How come this? And how come that? The advice given to us by Allah is to walk away at that point, that is the best course of action. The people at that time are not ready to listen and you will end up doing more damage than good. This was the advice given to Rasulullah (peace be upon him), so we should never let our egos get in the way.
If we look at the life of the Prophet, peace be upon him, he turned to salah for the solution to all his problems. Allah prescribes the same to us. However we find that our prayers are empty hollow rituals, that have very little effect on our state of being. The question is why? Whats wrong with our prayer, inshallah this lecture should help answer that question
We retain information better when we can forge connections with our existing bank of knowledge. Therefore every time you learn a new word try and recall all the other contexts in which that word has been used.
I did this with my 7 year old son recently. He learnt the Arabic word ‘Sadr’ chest, he already knew the dua of Musa (A.S) before he went to meet the Pharoah, where the word ‘Sadri’ my chest is used. So I retold the story to him in a manner which is appealing to 7 year old boys, reinforcing words like ‘imagine’ which help to create emotional connections by generating feelings within the listener. Then I told him how Allah mentions this word ‘Sadr’ a few times in the Qur’an, in various formats, when He says ‘He Knows what is in our chests’, ‘He is well acquainted with what our chests conceal’ etc. Then we looked at an anatomy chart and pointed out sadr, later that week we did push ups that work… ‘the chest’ all the while calling it ‘sadr’. Lo and behold, he learnt the Arabic word for chest.
This an oversimplified overview of how to make connections you can go much deeper than that. In the masjid I teach at, I have found linking my teaching material with the school curriculum a very effective approach.
You might have heard of Paretos principle, if not here is a quick overview. Paretos principle, often mistakenly coined Paretos law, states that 80% of consequences stem from 20% of the causes. For example we get 80% of our complaints from 20% of our customers, we receive 80% or our returns from 20% of our investments, we wear 20% of our clothes 80% of the time. You get the picture.
So how does this relate to learning Arabic? You might have noticed some students of Arabic doing various Arabic courses at colleges and universities around the country yet they still struggle to understand Qur’an or decipher classical texts, that because they have not harnessed the power of Paretos principle.
When it comes to understanding Qur’an we get the most exponential results from learning morphology and grammar. Otherwise known as ‘Sarf’ and ‘Nahw’.
Today I want to share with you a little gem from the science of ‘sarf’. Think of all the places that begin with مَ ‘ma’ in Arabic.
What do you notice? Have you noticed they are all places, Maktab (place where you write) Masjid (place of sajda, prostration), Mat’am (the place where you eat) Makhraj (exit, or the place where you exit) Madhkal (entrance, place where you enter) that’s because an Arabic word beginning with مَ ‘ma’ is an ‘adverb of place or time’. So the next time you hear a word beginning with ‘ma’ assume it’s most likely a place or time where something takes place. To know what place it is or what’s taking place you need to know the meaning of the root it carries.
As I keep reminding my kids Arabic is a language of patterns, once you start to make sense of these pattern you will really taste the beauty and sweetness of the Arabic language, it’s absolutely amazing. Until next time Allah bless.