When someone wrongs us it’s natural to get angry. Often this anger and frustration leads to further resentment and negative thoughts about the person. Sometimes such thoughts can spiral to great lengths. When this happens all the flaws of that person are magnified in our eyes and we become blinded from their good, leading us to hate that person with great intensity. We start to see them as completely evil. No one is ever completely evil, even the most evil people in history often had a misconstrued rationale for their actions, that they saw as noble. Although this might seem very natural this is nothing other than the ploy of shaitan. We think these thoughts are our own because of what we have experienced but they’re not they are clear whisperings of the Shaytan that can have severe consequences. It’s precisely this type of thing that leads to a cycle of violence death and destruction that can continues for many years.
The proof of this being shaytan is the statement of Joseph after he reunited with his brothers.
Despite what his brothers did, he still blamed the satan
The other thing to remember regardless of how others are, we are only answerable for ourselves and our own actions so we need to conduct ourselves according to the examples of the Prophets and laws laid out in the Qur’an
O you who have believed, be persistently standing firm in justice, witnesses for Allah , even if it be against yourselves or parents and relatives. Whether one is rich or poor, Allah is more worthy of both. So follow not [personal] inclination, lest you not be just. And if you distort [your testimony] or refuse [to give it], then indeed Allah is ever, with what you do, Acquainted. (Quran 4:135)
I used this formula to achieve peace when I was troubled for many years by a large loss in a business partnership as result of not follow Islamic Guidlines in setting up the business in the first place. Negative feelings consume you and harm oneself more than the other. It’s better to forgive and wait for Allah’s promise of reward. Allah never goes back on His promise (Qur’an). It’s not going to be an easy journey but you’ve got to make it and it’s worth it. It took me over 3 years even though I am an Islamic Teacher, who is trying to constantly trying to lead by example to the people around me, my kids my wife and be a role model for the youth I teach , exposed to the Qur’an everyday. May Allah make it easy for you.
If you want to get anywhere in life whether it be in terms off knowledge, health, finances whatever. You need the one ingredient of constancy. There will be many hardships, difficulties and hurdles you’ll have to overcome along the way, each time you’ve got to just pick yourself and carry on*. Always remembering Allah Loves Your Constant Deed!!
In another verse of the Qur’an Allah says
And say (O Muhammad SAW) “Work! Allah will see your work, and (so will) His Messenger and the believers. And you will be brought back to the All-Knower of the unseen
Al-Tawba Verse No:105
Allah (is) with you and never will deprive you (of) your deeds
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*Halal pursuits only 🙂
Yaqoub’s love for his son is one of the most touching aspects of the Quranic narrative. When he was separated from Yusuf, the tears of grief took his very sight away. After decades of sorrow and longing, his sons found Yusuf in Egypt. Yusuf sent them back with a shirt of his to cure his father’s blindness. Yaqoub detected the scent of his beloved son from miles away as the caravan approached:
وَلَمَّا فَصَلَتِ الْعِيرُ قَالَ أَبُوهُمْ إِنِّي لَأَجِدُ رِيحَ يُوسُفَ
“And as soon as the caravan was on its way, their father said: “Indeed, I find the scent of Yusuf in the air…””
Yaqoub interestingly says: أَجِدُ, I find the scent of Yusuf, but who says that they find the smell of something? You’d expect him to say “I smell the scent,” or “I detect the scent,” but word “find” is used here to represent a deeper emotional meaning.
The opposite of finding something is losing something, just as Yaqoub lost Yusuf. Moreover, to find something you must be searching for it.
The word أَجِدُ suggests that, after all those years, Yaqoub was still searching and longing for his son. He never gave up his hope in Allah, nor the love of his son. So when the caravan finally set out, he found the scent of Yusuf that he had been searching for, as opposed to smelling it. The subtle detail of Quranic word choice reveals such intricate beauty.
Taken from the Bayyinah Blog with permission
Sometimes in the field of dawah, this is not just with non muslims, people start mocking Islam. How come this? And how come that? The advice given to us by Allah is to walk away at that point, that is the best course of action. The people at that time are not ready to listen and you will end up doing more damage than good. This was the advice given to Rasulullah (peace be upon him), so we should never let our egos get in the way.